April 21

What Causes Attraction Between Man And Women? (+ Answers To All Your Questions)



So, what causes attraction between man and women? 

That’s the million dollar question, isn't it?

We’ve all seen the soppy love stories of the magnetic attraction between two people.

They meet. Fall in love. The rest is history. 

Maybe, you’ve got someone in mind…? or, maybe you just want further clarification...?

Either way, you're excited. 

You may have finally understood the cause of attraction and how to use this newfound knowledge aka super power to your advantage. 

Sound good?

Well, let’s start with the most basic question…

What is attraction between man and women?

Attraction occurs between two people who like each other. 

This attraction can be biological, physical and/ or energetic. 

You may have also heard attraction between a man and women referred to as ‘having chemistry’. 

This chemistry is the delicate balance of opposing masculine and feminine energies (not based on gender) polarising one another.

To put it simply. 

The more polarising these two energies are, the stronger the attraction. 

Why is attraction between man and women important?

Attraction is important between man and women to have a healthy and wholesome relationship. Not to mention a good sex life. 

Attraction helps to find compatible partners. It's a way of sifting through the mating landscape to help us find who we like and who we don't like. 

Once we know, we can then choose weather we want to invest our time and/or energy into developing our attraction further. Like maybe, a relationship.

Let's be honest.

Most people want to experience deep and intimate connection to another and to do this attraction is usually the binding agent. 

Otherwise, without attraction and with zero sexual polarity, you're just two buddies hanging out in matching shell suits. 

And, that's just fine. 

How is attraction between man and women formed?

Attraction between man and woman is formed when we meet someone whose energy polarizes our own, who we are physically and/ or biologically attracted to. 

This attraction can happen in an instant and tends to more physical , or can develop over a period of time which is usually based more on a emotional connection. 

Science tells us that it takes just three seconds to know whether or not we are physically attracted to someone upon meeting them for the first time. 

Scientific studies have shown that when we first encounter a new person our brain is processing one of two things;

  1. Working out through our Paracingulate Cortex whether we think they are hot.
  2. Deciding through our Rostromedial Prefrontal Cortex whether we are compatible.

Personal Story >>

In my own life, attraction with women hasn’t, necessarily been instant. 

On a biological level this makes complete sense . 

But, as the friendships develops more emotionally, as does the attraction. 

However, with men it’s more about the physical attraction first. 

Here's what I've learnt. Attraction can’t be forced.

You either have it for someone, or you don’t.

The law of polarity in relationships

The law of polarity in relationships is one of the The Twelve Spiritual Laws of the Universe that impact us in every aspect of our lives, everyday. 

Each of these twelve laws teach us something unique about our well-being, happiness, and relationships.

The law of polarity  in relationships states, for everything to exists, it must have an equal and exact opposite.

North & South. Yin & Yang ect. 

And, we’ve all heard, opposite's attract. Well, it's true. 

Here's why.

Everyone has both masculine and feminine energies - your leading energy reflects your inner core essence and values.

For example:

If you're leading energy is feminine you will polarise and attract someone who's leading energy is more masculine and vice versa.

This polarity, often referred to as 'sexual polarity' in relationships is what causes attraction between a man and woman. 

On the other hand, if there is little energetic polarity between the two individuals, then the attraction is either not present or will eventually fade.

The key to polarity in relationships, is that both people know their true core essence and that they both embody this energy fully. 

Magnetic attraction between man and women

The most obvious signs of attraction between man and women are magnetic. 

This magnetism isn’t something you force, it is something that exists between another in our energetic bodies.

Let’s look at our energy bodies for further evidence.

We are all made of atoms.

When there is matching parmanus (atoms) between two people, attraction is present. 

It’s chemistry. It's science. 

Which is why, this attraction can and will only occur between certain bodies. 

When these atoms are energetically online, they are magnetically pulled together. 

Have you ever wondered why no matter what you do, you can't keep away from someone. 

It feel's as though there’s a greater power at work. No matter what you do, there’s a force that brings the two of you together. 

This is magnetic attraction at work. 

Magnetic pull between man and women

This magnetic pull between man and women is undeniable. 

Think of a needle and magnet. 

Hold the magnet in one hand and the needle in the other and the needle will pull towards the magnet. 

Nothing else was involved. 

Only the characteristics of the magnets compatibility with the needle. This magnetic pull between man and women is what we all desire. 

It’s biological, it’s energetic, it's physical. And, it’s hot as fuck.

One two people are pulled together there is an exploration of fireworks. In science this is referred to as subatomic particles. 

Although love is a mystery, you’d have to agree, attraction is scientific. 

Law of attraction between man and women

Similar to a magnetism of two people there is a pseudoscience known as the Law of Attraction. 

This law of attraction between a man and women can be influential to attract the right person into your life. 

Before, we understand how to use it, let's firstly define what the Law of attraction is:

The universal law is a metaphysical force akin to gravity. This law has the ability to attract whatever we want in our lives by using the power of focus, intent and massive action. 

In short, the Buddha once taught: "What you think you become".

For example:

If you want to attract love in your life, you have become the love you want to attract.

To help with this, here are three simple tips you can use to begin.

  1. Invest time and love into yourself. From this place you will align and match your energy with the vibration of love and automatically you will draw more love into your life.
  2. Focusing on your self image and who you want to be now, will attract someone into your life who shares the same values. 
  3. Be aware of self limited beliefs you have around attracting love, try to change them and you will attract into your life someone who holds the same as you. 

The law of attraction is the most powerful law of the Universe. Whatever you send out to the Universe, you will attract it back. 

If you’re loving, kind and generous, you will attract events and experience in your life that mirror this back to you. 

On the other hand, if you’re depressed, anxious and ungrateful the law of attraction will respond with more negative events and experiences in your life. 

Let’s say you want to attract a certain person in your life. Put your focus and attention as if you already have them in your life.

When you place your focus on what you already have, more will come. When you focus on the lack of something (e.g not having a partner) the less a partner will come into your life. 

The most critical element of the law of attraction is to become a vibrational match to what it is you want, then you can expect miracles to show up in your life. 


Remember when you first felt attracted to someone?

You had no idea why. No clue why you were so drawn to that person. And, no idea why you couldn’t stop thinking about them. 

Now, all of your questions have been answered. 

And, while you still have so much to learn, you have all the info you need to understand what causes attraction. 

So, it’s time for you to decide.

Do you want to attract a relationship into your life that feels exciting, lustful and fun?

Or a relationship which is boring, stale and tense? 

If you want the first, then it’s time to take the next step.

Go out and have a little fun, experiment with this newfound knowledge and witness firsthand how they operate in your life. 

Are there any points that I have missed? If so, comment below and we will get the conversation started. 

With love


About the author 

Lauren Ringer

 Hi, I'm Loz. And I'm a life coach for those people who are brave enough to run towards their truth. 

...as i was brave enough to run towards mine. 

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    1. Yes. I believe both people feel it. But, sometimes this can be scary for some people and when they go into their head too much and deny the connection (this has happened to me).

      Stay connected to your heart space and the truth will reveal itself.

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